It is said that we connect with people for a purpose.
In past few years, I have set my expectation right. Friends or acquaintance or whoever I meet are meant to be in my life only for a purpose. Once the purpose cease to exist, these friends won’t exist too.
I no longer feel disappointed.
Another change I have made is the way I think about myself. I believe I am a tiny dot in the universe. I am insignificant. I am not important for anyone.
Try the above and let me know does it make you feel better ?
I read a lot of stories about how friends betrayed them when it mattered most. Thing is their expectations. If people believe, in this materialistic world, people will stick by them in times of adversity, then they live in some fantasy world.
If you are one of those who volunteers to bail out friends in trouble, then you must not expect anything in return. Showing gratitude is a lost art.
So despite so many posters about true friends and people betraying when you needed them most, why do people continue to behave that way ?
I believe for majority of people, they won’t know how you feel when you are in deep trouble unless they go through a similar situation.
So another parent wouldn’t understand how it feels to have a child suffer from terminal illness unless they go through the same situation. Possibly, this is how we are wired.
It is best to give them a benefit of doubt, continue with the friendship but be weary not to expect it. When they are in trouble, and they call you, help them out.
Remind them politely that it would have been wonderful had they given you support when you needed them most. By doing that you invite good karma and they live with regret. Bless them as they are humans.
Don’t think evil of anyone as it only hurts you more.
Show people how to be a good friend.
They are learning from you.