All of us would love to have people around us remember us for a long time and be kind as they were when we first interact with them.
Some become friends, in most cases you are out of sight-out of mind but at least one person is meant to stay with us maybe a little longer.
However, the sad truth is everyone changes. They are not the same person when you met.
The intensity in conversation diminishes with passage of time. And you wonder whether should you have recorded that moment on video when everything was perfect for you – just to remind people this is how it was few moons ago. Later, you message them ‘Hello…remember me ?’ and you got no response.
So why do people change ?
Your life partner aside, for the rest, one of the reason could be you are priority number 257 in their long list of friends list that grows at a rapid rate everyday.
If you were a techno smart person and recorded all the promises your partner made before marriage and you get a response ‘Are you sure that was my voice ?’ – What do you do then ?
I suspect most people hide the reality from you that they suffer from Alzheimer’s disease. Alzheimer can affect anyone especially once their job is done and they don’t need you anymore.
Sometimes, Alzheimer can also affect your friends when they realize you are going through difficult times.
People want you in their life for some entertainment value. Some urgent need. To kill time maybe, especially when there is nothing new uploaded on Youtube or there is no major sports event around.
When you stop providing entertainment value, they move on to the next entertainer in the queue.
So if you thought you are not attractive to your partner anymore or you don’t provide anything new and you don’t excite them anymore, then let me assure you, it’s not you – it’s that silly Alzheimer and there is no known cure for it.
Or maybe, we must accept this is how life was, is and will be. Nobody is meant to stay in your life forever, only memories.