I always wished few people who belittle others opened their mouth only to eat food and for nothing else.
Sadly, even the most educated people, even with a degree from a reputed institute love belittling others. Such people believe the entire universe revolves around them. Hence, education or the lack of it is ruled out here.
The truth is they have a low self-esteem. They belittle others only to make themselves feel good. They believe that by passing comments on you, they can make others around them laugh.
When you feel good about yourself, you would never think of belittling others.
I always believed in life that ‘When you have a problem, fix the problem not the person’.
Another way of looking at them is, they are not born that way. They never learned how others feel about their remarks.
Some people apologize immediately when they learn that their comment offended others and if they are not forgiven, they stay with that guilt for their life.
Some don’t learn – they have never been told politely that their comment was rude, because people tend to walk away from them and they are ignored, which adds to their low self-esteem. It is a vicious cycle. They tend to inflict their pain on others, until they come across a soul who makes them feel valued. This soul can bring a lot of change in that person.
Very few people in the world are compassionate to feel others pain. These compassionate souls are willing to hear the other person out. They accept their mistakes and that they are human.
Words are powerful. Kind words can melt the most rude person on earth. Nobody was born rude.
Parenting plays an important role too. What kind of upbringing children get ? Do kids get a lot of unconditional love ?
Do kids learn from their parents, how to treat others ? What words they should speak to others and what words must be avoided ?
Over a period of time, most people learn eventually. However, humans being social animals crave for social acceptance.
When they get silent treatment at home, or ignored by friends and not treated well at work, it all adds up.
Hence, my emphasis has always been that we need more compassionate souls on earth and not billionaires.