I did quite okay without any friends for over 25 years. Seriously !!!
The only period in my life I had any friends were school/college because I was it was mandatory to have friends even though I would have preferred to have lunch alone even then. However, they would hunt me down and join me for lunch, sometimes to steal food from my lunch box and I had to return the favor.
I had about 3 friends in college and after all the bull shit promises ‘We will keep in touch’ and all, they got married to beautiful woman and later forgot that I exist. So I took revenge as well. I got married to a beautiful woman as well and did not bother to connect with them until this thing called ‘Facebook’ became a part of our lives.
So after 15 years of disappearance ( I am assuming they got sucked in the Bermuda Triangle) they reappeared and after I created my Facebook account, I got friend requests one after the other.
Then the usual ‘Hello..How have you been?’ and the abuses for not keeping in touch, slowly and steadily they disappeared again.
I also shared with my friends that I am no longer and not doing good health wise. Later, frequency of interaction widened and then stopped completely. For a long time, they did not know they were no longer on my friends list.
Today, sometimes I feel embarrassed to even add anyone on Facebook because I have about 25 odd friends when most people I know seem to have 600+ odd.
Good thing about not adding too many friends is there isn’t much noise in my life that allowed me to focus on my start up project and that mattered to me the most.
While I struggled during the worst phase of my life, it would have made me feel worse when I saw pictures of others on holiday.
I have no regrets though. I believe the number of friends do not define who I am. Friends are only temporary. They are there for good times only. I became stronger than before and dealt blow after blow all alone.
On a similar post on Quora, few people commented ‘To have friends..you have to be a good friend yourself’. I know all that.
I know each one of us have different experience in life and we make our own choices.
The best lesson I learnt in life is blood is thicker than water.