One of the habit I picked up from my mother is to inquire about people I know on a casual basis. Just a casual phone call, how has life been ? What are they up to ?
Sadly, not many inquired about her in return as I observed that it was only my mother who was worried about her siblings, cousins and everyone she knew.
When I asked her why does she call people who do not even bother to inquire about her in return, she replied ‘Someday they will realize how important it is to inquire about well being of others’.
Well the realization did dawn upon them. Each and every family member she used to inquire about did turn up for her funeral a decade ago and they cried a lot. But it was too late by then.
For a long time, I followed her foot steps. And now I do it only for select people who care about me.
Once I get the feel that people do not understand the value of someone being inquired, then I back out. These are the same people who complain about loneliness and how selfish the world has become.
I firmly believed that we can sit at home and complain about others or we try and change and set the tone for others to emulate. I choose the latter.
People do inquire about my well being when they want me to like their page or a photograph they submitted in a competition.
I understand for majority of us – if you are out of sight, you are out of mind.
This is one of the reality of life that we need to accept.